9 Helpful Tips for When Your Baby Only Wants to Be Held

Baby doesn't want to be put down

If you are the parent of a newborn, you will notice that your baby always wants to be held. New parents are often taken by surprise by how needy their baby can be.

You will find that your baby will want to be held less over time, and it's natural in the early days of its life that it will want to be held as much as possible.

Here we're going to discuss why your baby wants to be held and if you should be worried if it seems that your little bundle needs far more attention than you think it should have.

Sometimes What Your Baby Wants Is to Feel Your Warmth

You might not have thought about it until now, but being inside the womb is a nice warm place.

The outside world is not as warm as a womb, and your baby is trying to experience the warmth that it misses.

The solution is simple:

You merely hold your baby until he or she feels warm, and they will stop crying again.

It's natural for your baby to want to feel the warmth of your body, and there's nothing at all wrong with it. You might feel that all of the crying means something is wrong, but the solution is simple and understandable.

Your Baby May Be Feeling Separation Anxiety

The world is a big and scary place for someone as tiny as a baby. Your baby may be feeling a high level of anxiety because it's not near you.

We've obviously all been there, bu imagine how you would feel if you were so small in a world that seems bigger than you.

Understandably, your baby is feeling anxious, and it wants to be near you.

Hold your bundle of joy and provide comfort while letting them know that everything is going to be okay. It only takes a few minutes to put your baby's nerves at ease, and it also gives you a chance to relax and get off your feet.

Here are a few things that you can do to help your baby and hopefully make it need to be held less.

Wrap Your Baby in a Blanket

Putting baby in blanket

Your baby is cold, and it misses how it felt being inside its mother. Wrapping your baby in a blanket is one way that you can make your darling infant feel warm.

If your baby feels warm, it is less likely to cry and want to be held.

Be Comforting and Make Sure That You Always Are Loving

Believe it or not, it's a common mistake to run out of patience and direct this impatience towards your baby for crying and needing to be held.

The moment that you begin to get upset is when your baby will lose control. Stay calm, hold your baby, and get them to stop crying.

If you are unable to get them to stop crying, the situation will only get worse. By staying calm, you ensure that your baby will eventually settle down, and the situation will diffuse itself.

Play Music That Will Soothe Your Baby

You know that they say that music soothes the savage beast. Music also soothes babies, and you can use it to your advantage when your baby continuously wants to be held.

Place your baby in its crib and turn on some soft relaxing music. You will soon notice that your baby is calming down, and they are no longer asking you to hold them.

Ask Your Spouse or Another Family Member to Help


Raising a baby is one of the most difficult things a person will ever do.

You should rely on your family and your spouse to get the job done. Don't shy away from asking your husband or wife to hold the baby if you have been doing it all day long.

Having a parent or other relative there to give you a helping hand is also something that you should consider during these times.

If you begin to feel yourself becoming stressed out, ask someone to hold your baby so that you can step away and give yourself a break.

Can You Spoil Your Baby by Holding Them Too Much?

There has been a debate since time began if you can hold your baby too much when they cry for attention.

The short answer to that question is, no one knows for certain.

You know in your heart that when your baby is crying that something needs to be done. You can't allow your child to cry endlessly without doing something about it.

Does that mean you should spend all day holding your baby and doing nothing else?

Well, at times it will feel that's all that you're doing. You need to get up and do other things for the sake of your sanity and give your baby a chance to feel as if they are away from you for a few moments.

Stay Calm If Your Baby Is Crying for an Extended Period Wanting to Be Held

Baby won't stop crying when put down

You can't possibly expect to be at your baby's side all the time. If you are home alone with the baby, there will be times when you must get up and do things away from your baby.

You might find yourself using the bathroom, and your baby begins to cry because it wants to be held. You will not harm your baby in the least if you finish going to the bathroom and then go to your baby.

You will want to make sure that your baby is well aware that you are still at home, and they are alone.

All you need to do is to yell and tell your baby day you will be right there after you're done using the bathroom.

There is no need to jump up off of the toilet and rush to your baby as if something terrible has just happened.

Finish doing your business and then go and attend to your baby because the time that they spend crying will teach them that instant gratification does not exist.

You're Not a Bad Parent Because Your Baby Is Crying

Sometimes it will rattle you to your very core to hear your baby cry.

There is nothing that you can do to stop your baby from crying all the time. Your baby might be in the crib, and you are sleeping on the couch, and it cries out of nowhere.

It's natural and healthy for a baby to cry and to want to be held.

As a parent, you need to develop a thick skin and understand that not all crying is the same.

The cries of a child who wants to be held are normal, and they will survive if you don't rush over and grab them immediately as soon as they make a whimper.